(Is it just me or have my posts been kind of serious lately?)
For those who watched Sex and the City, there is a scene where Charlotte and Carrie are walking down the street. Charlotte is asking Carrie for advice and Charlotte makes a comment about how do we ever know the people we sleep with, then proceeds to ask if her hair is too shiny.
Ok well this isn't about people I am sleeping with. But that quote always makes me think in general, how well do we know people?
We all have people or couples we are friends with. Since we aren't there 24/7, how well do we know what is really going on behind closed doors? Do we really know who these people are?
I have had friends assume, incorrectly, things about myself. Usually it is innocuous.
But from time to time, I underestimate, or incorrectly believe something about them. Being the astute judge of character I usually am, I rarely underestimate a person's character.
But at times, I do overestimate. There are times when I think someone is nice. I am hoodwinked. I am fooled. It doesn't happen often. But it does happen.
Where later I find out they are not the person I thought. The couple is not as perfect as they looked from the outside. And the partner is not as endearing/kind/compassionate as he/she seemed.
I personally have been in two "relationships" (would take too long to explain why that is in quotations now) where I haven't been aware of who the person really is.
It's a scary prospect. It's upsetting to believe you know someone and turn out to be wrong.
Have you ever been surprised when you realized a personality trait you didn't before recognize in a person?