I am sometimes very direct, which I wrote about here. But I am almost never mean, and never intentionally.
I have never understood the necessity of some people to be mean. I've always been someone who followed the mantra "you can catch more bees with honey than vinegar."
So it is especially difficult for me when I encounter meanness, or rudeness, that is wholly unwarranted. Now that isn't to say I can't be rude or mean. I'm not perfect and don't claim to me.
But I don't enjoy turning every conversation into a fight. And I don't enjoy surrounding myself with people who do either.
It almost seems like some people take pleasure in making other people feel miserable. Some people who perhaps never learned a healthy or normal means of interacting with others.
So as a society, as friends, as family, what is our responsibility? Do we try to challenge these people or simply shrug our shoulders and say "that's just how they are?"
I've grappled with this in many different instances. Sometimes I'm in public and someone is being incredibly rude. Do I speak up in defense of the "victim?" Or do I say it isn't my place and let it go?
For instance, on our honeymoon there was another newlywed couple at the next table. The bride, who was most definitely a bridezilla, kept making comments to her hubs about the waitress. We had the same waitress and thought she was wonderful. At one point I overheard bridezilla say she was going to complain to the manager. I turned to D and said we have to wait around because that isn't fair to the waitress. In the restaurant's gift shop I spied and saw her comment card which bashed the waitress. A few minutes later, D and I were leaving and the waitress was talking to the manager upset because she didn't understand what she'd done wrong. I interrupted and let the manager know that the waitress was great, it was the bride who was horrid. (Just for irony sake, guess which bridezilla was staying in the exact same hotel as us ... figures!)
I guess I could have spoken up during dinner. But this seemed like the best way for me to handle the situation. But what about for people you interact with more regularly?
Am I alone in this? Thoughts?